Before You Enter a Relationship

Why do you want a boyfriend or girlfriend? Why do you want a spouse? What are the potential risks associated with this partnership? What are the rewards? What type of partner do you want? These are all questions that would be incredibly beneficial to answer before starting a relationship. Those of you who consider yourselves “trapped” in a relationship know exactly what I’m talking about. I’d like to direct your attention to a few questions that are more powerful than the previous ones: What kind of person are you? Are you happy, sad, desperate, just wanting a fling, lonely, willing to take whatever you can get, or wanting a mutually loving and committed relationship? I find relationships to be fascinating because it’s a sure way to discover more about yourself than you could ever imagine. It is important to have intimate knowledge of yourself prior to entering a relationship for a couple of reasons.

First, by universal law, you will attract a partner of equal caliber. This is the Law of Attraction and it’s inescapable. If you are lonely you will attract someone as lonely as you. Your relationship will be fun for a while then you will realize that you are still lonely and that your partner cannot fill that void. Don’t believe me? Try it out. If you are dedicated to loving your potential partner for a lifetime and willing to accept their strengths and flaws, then you will attract the same. A simple way of recognizing when to stay out of a relationship is when you begin to feel that you NEED a relationship. This is also an indication that it’s time to get out.

Secondly, whatever emotions you consistently feel will be amplified in a relationship. If you are familiar with the “bar scene” and binge drinking, then you have heard people speak about how alcohol intensifies your personality. So, if you’re happy you tend to become extremely happy while drinking. If you’re angry you will become even angrier while drinking. If you’re flirtatious you will become more flirtatious while drinking. The same concept applies to relationships. If you are a jealous person, then I promise that you will experience jealousy no matter how committed your partner might be. Your emotional state is your emotional state regardless of environment (because emotional state is a choice). This is why two people can be stuck in the same traffic jam and one is seemingly unaffected while the other is furious.

So, the 64 million dollar question is what to do if you didn’t read this post in time and now you’re “stuck” in a relationship. I’ve been there many times. Yes, many times. Keep the following in mind. Rest assured, the longer you wait to get out the more painful it will be. When calm, talk to your partner and tell them exactly what you need in order to stay in this relationship. Do not spend your time complaining to anyone else. Also, make a decision to either stay or go.

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