Do You Find Pleasure in Losing?

Some find that it’s very hard to deal with a loss of money, a loved one, a game or something we hold as valuable. Do you find yourself losing weight, only to gain double the weight back a few months later? Has your will to create powerful change during these difficult economic times dwindled away? Have you found comfort in a lack luster life and settled for things just being the way they are? Of course, losing can have a positive or negative effect, depending on perception. It really does matter how you choose to look at things.

Let’s take a look at relationships. I hear a lot of people saying “I’m tired of coming in contact with the same ole’ guys and playing the same ole’ games.” Or, “I’ll just stick with what I’ve got, the next one could be worse.” Or my favorite, “The grass isn’t always greener on the other side.” When I hear that, it always makes me wonder why a relationship wouldn’t be better if it is the opposite of the bad relationship you’re in now. So, if you continue to think the same way, react the same way, and have the same beliefs about a situation, you will continue to get the same results. If you are expecting to meet someone or get involved in the same dead end relationship you just left, you are sending out vibrations that are emotionally charged and attracting a reality that you do not want. If you can expect something, why not expect what you really want?

We all know that habits shape our life. So if you are aware and apply habits to your life that provide the results you want, the shape of your life will be better! Therefore, your knowledge about the seven areas of your life; relationships, finances, nutrition, spirituality, family time/me time, personal growth and giving back to the community must continue to grow. And this takes practice, reading, application and discipline. Sounds boring doesn’t it? That’s why you make it a habit and good habits bring you the results you want. The habits you have now have been practiced, conditioned and rehearsed by you. Your experience and knowledge must continue to develop because life continues to develop. What someone liked today, may not provide them with the same enjoyment tomorrow.

So how do you find pleasure in losing? Start by looking at things from the perspective that you are gaining. Focus on the good in people and events. Focus activates the law of attraction. So if your focus is on well being, you will attract it. We are growth seeking, ever changing and evolving individuals. The pursuit in life we are after, is the pursuit we give ourselves. We’ve been given the power to choose.

I recall when I lost my grandmother, I was devastated. She was the cornerstone of our family. And losing her really hurt because I could not share my life with her, in person, anymore. But what I gained was the magnificent love and affection of a grandmother. I have countless memories that fill me up with so much gratitude, I could explode. I am abundantly wealthy with love, stories, visions, smells, places, and people that remind me of all the good I experienced with my grandmother. And no one can take that away from me. Not even the experience of losing my grandmother can take away all the smiles, the laughs, the hugs, the life, and the togetherness that keeps me going.

So is there pleasure in losing? You can not have loss without gain. Of course, it all depends on perception.